Choices.

One of the most arduous task that you can compel your mind to process is the situation of making choices. It's sad to see some people make the wrong choice, but all you can do is standstill and watch the show. Adversely, sometimes we, ourselves make the wrong choices and able to do nothing, but watch ourselves burn in remorse. I don't know whether to label wrong choices as stupidity or obligation.

I spend my loose end nights wondering how do we get this right? Because at the end nothing's perfect, no one's perfect. Impeccable choices don't exist, maybe just one of the many you make, may be perfect.

For an instance, the quest of choosing the right life partner. I'm not going anywhere near play-time lovers, where you're just too bored of your student life that you need someone for a fun and fool company, to satisfy your needs and pleasure or to keep up to the trend of having a hot looking partner. Those circle of people; really need to vent out their immaturity, plant some sense into their heads and let the deep roots keep their prudence intact.

How do you distinguish who's right and wrong for you? Do you believe in the go with the flow mantra or you push yourself forward and foresee your future with that person before getting into a relationship with them? It's a subjective question.

* Speaking from a woman's point of view. Well, some or rather it applies the same for both woman and man!*

A good looking guy, analogous to the features of Greek God, a person with a genuinely good fashion sense, proclaimed high self esteem and networking skills, gets really cheeky with his poetic lines, with an intense sense of romanticism, he'd buy you expensive gift, roses and take you on long drives, he's highly active in his social life, he needs to put up almost everything about your relationship to public's view, his pocket is bulky enough as for your visibility, he keeps you in his range all the time, texting and seeing each other often, he want to you to be prim and proper, well dressed and beautiful all the time, a well established man with substantial assets and a secured job. He claims that he really loves you. What else do you expect in the man you'd marry?

Another guess that keeps you wondering. An average looking guy, with an ordinary appearance, nothing to shout about, a kind hearted man, he tries to make you happy with the little things in life, a lovely family that treats you like one of their own, he doesn't know how to show his love, he's always crept at his workplace, working hard to bring himself up and he can't seem to fork out a solid time for you, he'd not skip a day without hearing your voice, you're the only one he shares every event in his life, he loves you very much, that he'd come from miles apart when you're sick, a shy guy that doesn't know what romance is, a person who thinks relationships are personal and it should stay within the fine line of two people. The both of you share a best friend-couple relationship. Not an eligible man to marry?

Life gives us such baffling circumstances and compel us to pick one. If it was you, what will be your choice?

I'd go for type two. Yes he may seem like an ordinary guy, but only you'll know his inner values. I think nothing matters more than inner beauty. He might not be able to spend some quality time with you, but he is working hard to give you a comfortable future. He may not say lovely things to you, but he'll look after you like a precious gem. He will do anything to change for you. I don't trust sweet looking, high end, romantic, smart behaved guys because most of them stink in the inside, they just don't show it, yeah alter ego problems. Until the very moment the both get officially hitched. Perhaps the very few genuine ones left, are either taken or gay, so don't hope for a chance to find a prince in a beast. To the other odd of extreme, a guy with a not so pleasing look, a hopeless character, with no sense of responsibility, and treat their partner like aslave is a major put off. Don't even bother looking straight into those kind of guys.

I'm not saying an average looking person is the right choice. But we often get carried away with what we see and hear. We often presume the perfect looking one's are the ultimatum. we get deceived by attraction so often that we make wrong decisions. That was just a clear-cut case in point. We have to learn to control our emotions and keep our mind on board. Before stepping in to a relationship, ruminate every angle, and listen to your conscience. It's your secret whisperer.

You can't fall for a random guy walking on the street! Love is definitely not blind. You have a choice to make, whether to love the right person and enjoy your fairy tale dream or love the wrong person and live a tormenting life. Love is all about benefit these days, they love for money, for beauty, for pleasure, for comfort, for fun. I don't see the significant of true love these days.

But I've always believed that love birds are made in heaven and it only claps with two hands, two people who are willing to accept each other's flaws and use each other strengths to move forward in life, as one. Choices are laid right before our eyes, we just have to be wise enough to pick the right one. You don't fall in love with looks, but a person's character and personality. That's love.

You're worth this life, make the right choice.


Signing off!
Nia..

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